Photo by Nelson

Vintage orange leather jacket and vintage jewelry-estate sales, black fur felt fedora with fuschia brim-by Guy NYC, fuschia sweater-H&M 10 yrs ago, black/pink striped fabric gloves-street vendor.

This morning Nelson and The Style Crone went over paperwork, legal documents, and files together.  I took notes in a special journal that has a black fabric cover with a regal gold dragon design.  I purchased this journal at an Indian import store years ago and it now becomes clear that it was waiting for this purpose.  I can’t rely on my memory to work without cues.  I know that this is true in partnerships in general, but there is a division of labor to sort through.  We have become so intertwined over the years. It is excruciatingly painful to walk through this process, and on the other hand I am acutely aware of how we have been a team for many years, how smoothly we flow together and take care of one another.  There is beauty in that and I cannot comprehend the loss.

The afternoon became devoted to ‘the very subtle’ orange and several shades of pink.  I have become more spontaneous in the planning of my ensembles and if an item is in sight it will be considered.  I find myself throwing things together as unfamiliar thoughts roll through my head.  Fortunately the hats are on display in the hat room, and as usual it starts with the chapeau as I process the morning through my outfit.


  1. Your beautiful outfits, beautiful words, beautiful smile are the first things I look to in the morning, and the last at night. I sympathize with your expression that this loss is incomprehensible. How could it be otherwise? I am so sorry for the pain that you and Nelson must walk through. I carry you in my heart.

  2. I am in a pink mood myself. I am sorry for what you and Nelson are forced to go thru
    but I know you and he have a deep love that is tremendous comfort to you both
    as well as painful as you face the future.

  3. May this dazzling orange together with the brilliant pinks be a beam of light in your life. Love from Munich!

  4. A black book with a golden dragon on the cover. How appropriate. And, although painful, how special is this time together. How strong Nelson is to help you through this next stage, making sure that you know what to do, where to find things, what he really wants. So many don’t have the chance, or are too frightened to do so. This sorting out is an act of caring for you and also, as you say, a revelation of how the two of you were like the meeting of 2 rivers that flowed together.

    Bless you both at this time.

    Much love from England

  5. As always, you are being a great role model for the rest of us. It is wise to get your affairs in order and to walk through the difficult, but important details. And on top of that do it with class.
    Today, you remind me of orange and raspberry sherbert! I hope amidst all of this you and your Nelson have moments of deep joy and a smile or two.

  6. The Dragon is right there inside, just under the pink and orange sherbert, breathing fire for all that she loves, protecting her home and family. The strength shines through in the smile, and radiance to light up everyone’s day. I hope you are both writing notes to each other to be found in strange and wonderful places years from now.

  7. You are such an inspiration, not only in your poise, style and beautiful exterior but in the brave manner in which you are handling such a heartbreaking situation.
    I hope that dragon brings you the strength you both need. xxx

  8. I love that clash of orange and pink. You are the master of us all my dear.
    What a wonderful surprised to see your lovely comment.
    Thank you a lot my dear Judith.
    I am adding you to my blogroll, not to miss any of your coming posts.
    Much love and besos= kisses.

  9. I love that clash of orange and pink. You are the master of us all, my dear.
    What a wonderful surprised to see your lovely comment.
    Thank you a lot my dear Judith.
    I am adding you to my blogroll, not to miss any of your coming posts.
    Much love and besos= kisses.

  10. I may not comment every day, but your blog is the first I check every day.I think of you and Nelson often. It is hard to know what to say, but perhaps just saying “I am thinking of you both” is enough.
    You have amazing style and courage. I cannot imagine the strength it takes to face each day with such class and a smile.

  11. You are an inspiration. I read your blog everyday and so admire your strength. I love seeing the beautiful outfits you have for the day, love the colors and smiles. The internet has opened up a territory that sometimes I cannot comprehend but, it has brought you into lives of people from all over the world. I can feel your pain and sadness, God be with you.

  12. Read you every day, and I think you are amazingly strong and I hope that I would have the same upbeat attitude in a similar situation. You rock!

  13. Thank you for this journal from your heart, Judith. And thanks to you, Nelson, Camille and all the rest for the illustrations. The impact of your juxtaposition of text and graphics is inexpressable, at least by me. How is it that I walk away from each reading feeling so sad and so uplifted at the same time? Thank you for that. xoxo

  14. Thank you for sharing your journey. You have made me realize it is the little things in life that mean the most. And too often we are bothered by things that are really meaningless. How lucky you are to have Nelson and how lucky he is to have you.
    Thank you again

  15. Judith, you look stunning in orange and pink! It was wonderful spending time with you and Nelson yesterday! It was peaceful listening to the wonderful chanting and prayers…You two continue to be an inspiration for me in living a life of grace… You two are in my thoughts and prayers…

  16. Having lost a loved one very suddenly, I agree that, as excruciating as it is, to be able to prepare together is a blessing. I feel that Nelson has helped create a wonderful safety net for you through this blog, one that is expanding and will endure, providing inspiration, hope, and support. We then take his/your energy and share it exponentially, a miracle of Love.

    Nelson, I am sure this is only a thread of your amazing legacy. Judith, I think of you everyday as I select my attire, rising to the occasion of “now”.

    And by the way, I think zebra print is needs a little promo! Much love, …….J.

  17. Beautiful words about Nelson as always.

    That jacket is spectacular. If you ever get tired of it, send it to me!

  18. So many wise women above has said it so well, but let me just pipe in. You really are leading by example. How beauty is emeshed in a loving spirit, grace and dignity. How you show your face still with your pain, but with your head held high, not weighed down by self-pity or bitterness (that is more my way) but with such grace! I wish to emulate you, lovely lady, in your joyful times and the darker times. Thank you for sharing so much with us. xo. -Bella Q
    the Citizen Rosebud

  19. So few women could make that orange leather jacket look as chic as you do! I can’t imagine how difficult it is to be going through the experience that you are with Nelson right now, but you are inspiring all of us with the grace and dignity with which you move forward. It is nice to know that our comments can help make a difference in your day, because there is a lot of positive energy out here that is being sent your way (unintentional rhyming going on there!)

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